Remember when I mentioned that my mother got a phone call from a family friend who said she had a guy she wanted me to meet? Looking back at that post, I see it was from January 24. Wow, January.

Anyway, my mother gave our friend my blog address and she passed it on to him. He lurked for a bit (and somehow wasn’t scared away) and then emailed me and we’ve been corresponding ever since. Turns out he is not a pastor, but teaches college poli-sci. He is a devoted follower of Jesus and one of the sweetest men I’ve met in a long time.

I was very reluctant about the whole thing and I told him that in the beginning, pointing him to all of my posts about my singleness. He read them all and stuck with me, brave man. Time has passed, we’ve gotten to know each other - I kind of dig him and he kind of digs me and It’s A Good Thing.

We have been out a handful of times (he’s the friend with whom I’ve been playing tourist lately) to see if there was any potential in a relationship. We’ve had an ongoing discussion about courtship, which is more intentional than merely dating (and a-whole-nother possible post), from the start and after another discussion last week we agreed that we’re definitely going to continue with this fledgling and growing courtship/relationship.

He blurks around the place and I think he prefers to remain in the shadows, so for ya’ll he’ll be known as The Beau on the rare occasions that he will get mentioned. I only bring it up because I’ll be scarce at times, especially on the weekends, since we’re about 90 minutes away from each other. And I didn’t think I’d be able to be cryptic about my “friend” for very much longer.

Finally, I know that the family friend who initiated the set up reads here, too. Thanks, MB, for the introduction, from both of us. I look forward to seeing you the next time I venture down that way.

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1. Whoo-hoo! Congratulations and I hope this is the very beginning of many, many happinesses.

   Posted by Dave  on  04/19/05  at  10:46 AM

2. Thanks, Dave.

   Posted by  on  04/19/05  at  11:02 AM

3. That’s terrific!

   BTW - “blurks”?  I like that.

   Posted by Robert the Llama Butcher  on  04/19/05  at  11:12 AM

4. Aw..."The Beau”...it sounds so southern, in a chivalrously comfy way. I’m glad to hear things are going well. Yay!   Hello, Jen’s beau.

   Personally, I think a post about courtship would be very informative.

   Posted by princess jami  on  04/19/05  at  11:17 AM

5. jami, I’m thinking about posting on courtship, but I’ll need to do a little research first. And maybe get some thoughts from The Beau, too.

   Posted by  on  04/19/05  at  11:34 AM

6. Oh yeah, Robert - I saw “blurk” somewhere and liked it, too. It’s distinctly the blog lurker = blurker.

   Posted by  on  04/19/05  at  11:35 AM

7. May I say how absoloutely THRILLED I am to hear this - THRILLED I tell you !!!
   Jane had mentioned something a few days ago, but to see you put it all into words, just makes everything that bit more definate.
   I’m delighted J - Best to you and him - M

   Posted by  on  04/19/05  at  12:11 PM

8. When’s the wedding? See, I told you you’d be happier if you were married. Don’t wait too long to have kids. Olivia and Duncan aren’t getting any younger. Am I going to be in the wedding party? Can’t wait. Have you picked out a date yet? Have fun along the way. Your sister never told me anything about this. I’m surprised.

   Posted by denis  on  04/19/05  at  12:29 PM

9. Mare, thanks.

   Denis, I was going to ya’ll this weekend, but decided to post it instead. Mom and Dad knew. No wedding planned. No kids planned. It’s very early days yet.

   Posted by  on  04/19/05  at  01:03 PM

10. Yay!!

    I like blurk too.

    I’d been wondering if something was up.  You’ve been a bit “off” lately, if that’s the right word for my impression.

    Posted by Jay  on  04/19/05  at  01:06 PM

11. See, I had a feeling people would start to notice the change that I knew was evident.

    I’ve been a little busy in other areas too, though. Sharing a house means less time alone. Busier, longer days at work. And I’m my mother’s bookkeeper and webmaster for her business. So I’m a little busy and spending less time on the blog.

    Posted by  on  04/19/05  at  01:12 PM

12. Blessings on you Jen, in whatever happens. You certainly deserve happiness (either as a single, or as a non-single) because you give so much happiness to others.

    I look forward to hearing more about your beau. I’m glad ya’ll “dig eachother” and it sounds like you’re doing everything right.

    Posted by Bill  on  04/19/05  at  01:13 PM

13. I can’t get the smile off my face!  This is great news!  I’m really happy for both of you!

    Posted by  on  04/19/05  at  01:18 PM

14. Bill, thanks, friend.

    kbf, I think I should thank you too, right? So, thanks! 

    Posted by  on  04/19/05  at  01:25 PM

15. Groovy!

    While some might get a little :puker: at the mushy, I’m all about the romance…

    God bless you both in the adventure!
    (I also needed to see if I could find a way to get my fav smiley into an otherwise “Good Thing.")

    Posted by Bryan  on  04/19/05  at  01:59 PM

16. Bryan, I made sure to keep the puker just for you when I moved the blog.

    Posted by  on  04/19/05  at  02:46 PM

17. Jen I am de-blurking to tell you that I am grinning from ear to ear at this news.  I knew it, ‘cause of the “friend” posts that started showing up.

    Happy fledgling relationship!

    Gwen

    Posted by  on  04/19/05  at  03:38 PM

18. Good for you, Jen.  Hope all works out well.

    Posted by  on  04/19/05  at  05:23 PM

19. Cool stuff.

    Posted by Michael Morgan  on  04/19/05  at  06:18 PM

20. Congratulations and blessings! (And don’t pay any attention to us! What do we know? Other than we’re all thrilled for you. But your heart knows what to do, because you’ve allowed God to make it so.)

    Posted by Eric  on  04/19/05  at  09:31 PM

21. Hello at last. I’ve been hearing rumblings about “this girl” my brother has been emailing.  So now, you’re finally out of the computer!  And you are real!!!

    You couldn’t get caught by a nicer guy and you both have been in my prayers as you are seeking God’s will in your life about this relationship! We’ve all been wondering who he has been waiting for all these years!

    I’ve been reading your blog since I got emailed about it yesterday!  (Which is when “Beau” told me about you officially.") I felt a little voyeuristic reading about your trip to Luray Caverns, since I knew who your “friend” was!

    Enjoy your time with him as you get to know him and may the Lord’s blessings be on the both of you. And I’m looking forward to meeting you.

    Posted by  on  04/20/05  at  01:24 AM

22. Great News, Jen!  I’ll be praying for your new relationship--I was wondering about the non-descript “friend” too!  Blessings.

    Posted by  on  04/20/05  at  07:18 AM

23. After my busy day I finally get to chirp in here.  Glad it’s out in the open - it was hard keeping that secret for four whole days from Denis! *wink*

    Posted by Jaynee  on  04/20/05  at  09:09 AM

24. OK, wow. Huge response to my news. Thanks, all.

    Gwen - thanks for de-blurking! Not so scary, now, was it?

    Dave/Michael,Bev - thanks.

    Eric - I’ll pay attention when it suits me.

    Beau’s sis - I sent you an email, but I appreciate your comments. Thank you.

    Jaynee - think he’ll be ticked about that? I’m looking forward to the grief I’ll get this weekend.

    Posted by  on  04/20/05  at  09:53 AM

25. Jen, I’m delighted for you.  I’m not predicting whether or not this will blossom into a beautiful marriage, but ya’ll seem to be going about it in most honorable fashion.  It’s always a blessing to see Patient-Godly-Woman-Gets-The-Good-Guy principle at work.  Many many blessing to you and The Beau!

    Posted by Phil in CA  on  04/20/05  at  10:25 AM

26. Thanks, Phil.

    Posted by  on  04/20/05  at  10:29 AM

27. He wasn’t ticked, so much as surprised that I didn’t tell him.  And yes, be prepared for a Lah-hot of grief this weekend. *lol*

    Posted by Jaynee  on  04/20/05  at  10:35 AM

28. If he’s The Beau, are you La Beast ;) ?

    Posted by Monjo  on  04/20/05  at  10:47 AM

29. Well, if Gwen is going to de-blurk, then I may as well come out of the blurky darkness also.  I’ve been watching this story unfold from the other side, as The Beau’s old friend, and I have to say that I cannot imagine a better match made in heaven.  Jen, I may not know you yet, but your blog (which I had to find on my own, btw, since he is rather private about such things, you know) is very expressive and I have learned a lot of good things about you from reading it.  I think he’s made a wise decision in pursuing the courtship.  And you will not find a sweeter man…his still waters run very deep.

    Enjoy every precious moment together and God bless your relationship.

    Posted by  on  04/20/05  at  10:59 AM

30. Jaynee, I know. I think I’m ready. :shurg:

    Monjo, you’d have to ask The Beau.

    Gwynne, thanks for your kind thoughts and for de-blurking to say them. If he didn’t tell you about my blog, then how did you find it?

    Posted by  on  04/20/05  at  01:08 PM

31. How did I find your blog?  Well, that took a minor bit of detective work...he shared only bits and pieces, like your name, date of birth and social security number (no, not really , but when he mentioned that you blog, I googled what little I had: “Jen, Duncan (he sent me a picture of you and Duncan...cute!), VA, christian, blog, Pop Tarts.” I had to remove the word Pop Tarts to get anywhere, but from there it was a clean swoop into your site.

    I hope that we too might become old friends someday. You are both in my prayers.

    Posted by  on  04/20/05  at  01:41 PM

32. Hmmm, I don’t think I’ve ever posted about the goodness that is the Pop Tart.  Always with the frosting. Always.

    Gwynne, thanks. I look forward to meeting one of his treasured friends.

    Posted by  on  04/20/05  at  01:51 PM

33. OK. Ya’ll know we’re not engaged, right?

    I appreciate the well wishes, believe me. Just cracking me up a bit…

    Posted by  on  04/20/05  at  01:52 PM

34. Well, this is a rather engaging comment thread, but at least I had figured that was all.  For now.

    Posted by Jay  on  04/20/05  at  06:41 PM

35. Heh. For now, true. Who knows?

    Posted by  on  04/20/05  at  07:53 PM

36. Best wishes for your happiness, whether single or closely attached, from a blogger, lurker, blurker, and fan of your site.

    I’m MB (obviously not the same MB mentioned in your post)

    Posted by MB  on  04/21/05  at  12:28 PM

37. I tried to comment the other day but for some reason it didn’t “take”. This what I tried to leave:

    

    But only because you didn’t have a clapping smiley.

    Posted by Jared  on  04/21/05  at  02:21 PM

38. MB, thanks. And I blurk at your blog as well. That’s where the Gathering of the Blogs helped me find a bunch of new, good reads.

    Jared, I used to have a clapper - smiley, that is. Must still be at the old domain. *going off to hunt for more emoticons* And thanks!

    Posted by  on  04/21/05  at  02:29 PM

39. I’m late to the party, but good luck!

    Posted by Ith  on  04/26/05  at  07:46 PM

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